{"id":2298,"date":"2026-08-13T11:02:57","date_gmt":"2026-08-13T15:02:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/?post_type=mission&#038;p=2298"},"modified":"2026-10-27T09:09:37","modified_gmt":"2026-10-27T13:09:37","slug":"marriage","status":"publish","type":"mission","link":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/sacraments-christian-initiation\/the-sacraments\/marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color has-xx-large-font-size wp-elements-10f7bfc3da2fe47be41e6149e7690e3e wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Catholic marriage is a union of \u2026 three persons!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n<section class=\"menu-tabs aligndefault\"\n>\n  <div class=\"menu-tabs__outer tabs-swiper\">\n    <div class=\"menu-tabs__wrapper\" id=\"tabsMenu\">\n    <!-- The navigation links will be automatically generated here by front-menu-tabs.js -->\n    <\/div>\n  <\/div>\n<\/section>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-media-text is-vertically-aligned-center is-stacked-on-mobile has-beige-medium-background-color has-background\"><figure class=\"wp-block-media-text__media\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"590\" height=\"332\" src=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/mariage_0.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2201 size-full\" srcset=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/mariage_0.jpg 590w, https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/mariage_0-300x169.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 590px) 100vw, 590px\" \/><\/figure><div class=\"wp-block-media-text__content\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Catholic marriage is a union of \u2026 three persons! Yes indeed, the spouses are not the only ones to pledge their love for the rest of their lives on their wedding day. God \u2013 that perfect Loving Being \u2013 also pledges to be present in a real way in the daily life of the couple, so that they can constantly draw upon his love and can love each other freely, totally, faithfully, without reserve, following the deepest longing of their hearts.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Discover the&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/archdiocese\/offices-services\/diocesan-centre-for-marriage-life-and-family\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Diocesan Centre for Marriage, Life and Family<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading anchor\">Meaning of Catholic Marriage<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>Marriage is the icon of God\u2019s love for us.<\/p><cite><em>Pope Francis, April 2, 2014<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\">To get married in Church means so much more than getting married in a church. Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We are all created in the image of God who is Love Personified. Human beings of all cultures, races and religions, aspire to love and be loved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This love does not come from us, its origin is not from within us: it is from God. Through this love and our whole existence, God wishes that we come to discover how very deeply he loves us. It is in the signs that he sends us and in certain particular experiences that we live through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When a man and a woman celebrate their marriage, they are a reflection of God who has marked them with the traits and indelible characteristics of his love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-289100c1f8b97da2896d31dd47d1f7ff\">A marriage of three<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Marriage is not a symbol that resembles the love of God, like the leaves that flutter in the wind. Catholic marriage IS the visible sign (= a sacrament) of the real \u2013 although invisible \u2013 presence of God in the spouses\u2019 love story.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">God knows our desire for love, but also our limitations for loving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Moreover, it is precisely to help us to become capable of loving as deeply as we would like to, without having to settle for a lesser love, that Jesus \u2013 God who became man \u2013 died on the cross for us and for his Church. That is the power of the glorious Cross: the death of our limitations for love, the infinite love of God that conquers the power that ego and death have over us!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Therefore, at each wedding, along with the spouses, Jesus also makes a commitment, as he did in Cana, in Galilee. Jesus offers them the same love as the one that he offered on the Cross. Invigorated and carried by this divine Love, the spouses are from then on able to love each other completely in their daily lives, in the little things and the bigger ones, as they mutually give their life as a gift to the other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Therefore, marriage is a sacrament that is the visible and powerful sign of the invisible yet real presence of God\u2019s infinite love for each of the spouses throughout their lives.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-f5b4a064 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Marriage is a Dance: Christopher West on Marital Love and the Theology of the Body\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/cyGpersorsw?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-59b34182975f9e42bedc4c890485ccd7\">The four pillars of marriage<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\">To truly love is to forget the self to devote oneself to the happiness of the other. For love to be true, the kind of love that fills the heart, it must express four elements: it must be total, free, faithful and life-giving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, they are no longer two but one flesh<\/p>\n<cite><em>Matthew. 19:6<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Conjugal love is a commitment of the whole person \u2013 body, heart and mind \u2013 where the spouses aspire to become \u201conly one flesh\u201d, one heart and one spirit with their beloved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Conjugal love does not keep anything for itself and places no limits on the gift of self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To be a true gift, love must not be the result of an obligation or a debt: it must have liberty, be offered freely, be without condition, have no contract that dictates what each one must do for the other; love does not keep a score, it is given without counting the cost, without expecting anything in return.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People who love each other want to belong to one another forever, from youth to old age, until death, and beyond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is difficult [to think] that the person who does not decide to love forever could really love for even a day<\/p>\n<cite><em>Pope John Paul II, April 8, 1987, Argentina<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Through the Sacrament of Marriage, God \u201cseals\u201d (=solemnly confirms) the union between the spouses and gives them the gift of the \u201cindissolubility\u201d of their marriage, the gift of a bond that will last forever, like his love for each of the spouses of all of humanity. The indissolubility of marriage is a gift that responds to the deep desires of the spouses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What God has joined together, let not man separate<\/p>\n<cite><em>Matthew 19:6<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By its very nature, authentic love is immeasurably generous: it wishes to spill over and cannot be contained. It wishes to create something new, produce fruit; it desires to create life, give life. This overabundance of love that has become life is a child \u2013 or children \u2013 each one a unique gift from God\u2019s love for the couple. If the couple cannot conceive, the overabundance of their love can be channelled into a plan to adopt or sponsor a child or children, or any other life-giving service to society.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The overabundance of love will also be manifested through the couple\u2019s friendships which will serve to nourish and support the couple. Also, those friendships of the couple will also heal the wounds of people who were abandoned, establish a culture of encounter, fight for justice (\u2026) so that all may feel that every man is a brother (\u2026) the life-giving effect of the couple will grow and translate itself in a thousand ways to make present the love of God in society.<\/p>\n<cite><em>The Joy of Love, 183-184<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To want to have a family, is to decide to be a part of God\u2019s dream, (\u2026) to join him in this great story of the building of a world where no one will feel alone.<\/p>\n<cite><em>Pope Francis, 26 September, 2015, Philadelphia<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-5bddd3175ccf0b6be2d3b1d7f4079095\">A perfectly natural love!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In a word it is a question of the normal characteristics of all natural conjugal love, but with a new significance which not only purifies and strengthens them, but raises them to the extent of making them the expression of specifically Christian values.<\/p>\n<cite><em>Saint John-Paul II, Familiaris consortio, 13<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignfull is-style-form-container has-beige-light-background-color has-background is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center anchor\">Marriage Preparation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>Learning to love someone does not happen automatically (\u2026) In reality, each person begins marriage preparation at birth. What they received from their family should prepare them to know themselves and to make a full and definitive commitment.<\/p><cite><em>The Joy of Love, 208<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-cover alignfull has-parallax\" style=\"min-height:420px;aspect-ratio:unset;\"><div class=\"wp-block-cover__image-background wp-image-1451 has-parallax\" style=\"background-position:50% 50%;background-image:url(https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/ASV-2-scaled.jpg)\"><\/div><span aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-cover__background has-black-background-color has-background-dim-40 has-background-dim\"><\/span><div class=\"wp-block-cover__inner-container is-layout-flow wp-block-cover-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center has-x-large-font-size wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>You are getting married in the Church? Congratulations!<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>The Joy of Love experienced by families is also the joy of the Church.<\/p><cite><em>The Joy of Love, 1<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\">As a couple, it is important to know that marriage preparation is more about preparing for the rest your life rather than planning for a ceremony or celebration!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-buttons-is-layout-3e41869c wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-secondary\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/Planning-your-Wedding-in-the-Catholic-Church_2025.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Steps to take for a Catholic marriage<\/a><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-secondary\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/microsites.diocesemontreal.org\/microsites\/from-this-day-forward\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Preparation sessions<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-margin-small\"\/>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-8b779085abcfccf4c120c8387fa2726a\">Did you know\u2026<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2026getting married in Church is to enter into a union of three?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2026will you make the commitment to God to let him fill you with his love to the point where it will spill over beyond your life as a couple?<br><br>\u2026marriage is not a private project. You also make a commitment to those that you will meet throughout your life to help them to discover the love of God that will shine through you!<br><br>\u2026the Sacrament of Marriage will make possible for you things that appear to be impossible on a human scale, but that you still deeply desire.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p><em>To want to have a family is to decide to be a part of God\u2019s dream, (\u2026) to join him in the great story of building a world where nobody will feel alone.<\/em><\/p><cite><em>Pope Francis<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Catholic marriage is a very special plan. Are you aware of it?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do you accept to receive the great gift and important mission that God wishes to offer you?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The Church is there to offer you the best marriage preparation possible for this bold plan for abundant love!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading has-text-align-center has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-f69ba3c3afea463241df8eb7ceebb3f8\">For further information<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Marriage in the Catholic Church<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-buttons is-content-justification-center is-layout-flex wp-container-core-buttons-is-layout-3e41869c wp-block-buttons-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-button is-style-outline is-style-outline--1\"><a class=\"wp-block-button__link wp-element-button\" href=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/CDMVF_FAQ-Marriage_EN.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Frequently Asked Questions<\/a><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading anchor\">Successful Marriage<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>Christian marriage is a sign of how much Christ loved his Church in the covenant sealed on the cross, yet it also makes that love present in the communion of the spouses.<\/p><cite><em>The Joy of Love, 73<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\">The Church wishes to be close to each Christian couple and to accompany them in their growth. The Church desires that each couple discover the infinite love that God wishes to give to them, the mission that He would like to entrust them with, and the best way to overcome the difficulties inherent in this Christian vocation that is both beautiful and demanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">All marriages face difficult moments, but these experiences of the cross may make the path of love even stronger.<\/p>\n<cite><em>Pope Francis, 2013\/09\/28<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-e0dfa2624f0cbf478b044c5ebfa976cd\">Some advice from Pope Francis for dealing with difficulties and challenges in all marriages<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Their gaze now has to be directed to the future that, with the help of God\u2019s grace, they are daily called to build. For this very reason, neither spouse can expect the other to be perfect. Each must set aside all illusions and accept the other as he or she actually is: an unfinished product, needing to grow (\u2026) The blessing that they receive is a grace and an incentive for this journey that is always open.<\/p>\n<cite><em>The Joy of Love, 218<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Argue as much as you want. If the plates fly, let them fly. But do not ever end the day without making peace! Ever!<\/p>\n<cite><em>October 4, 2013<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To live together is an art, a patient journey that is both beautiful and fascinating. (\u2026) Each day\u2019s journey has a set of rules that we can summarize in these words: (\u2026) Please, May I? Thank you and I am sorry.<\/p>\n<cite><em>February 14, 2014<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The trials, sacrifices and crises of couples (\u2026) represent pathways for growth in goodness, truth and beauty. In marriage we give ourselves completely without calculating, unreservedly, sharing everything: gifts and hardship, trusting in God\u2019s Providence.<\/p>\n<cite><em>October 25, 2013<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-f5b4a064 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Pope Francis&amp;apos; advice to married couples\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/R9VwSF6N02w?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-d6449da4a6216e4abb97907e2b6b647a\">For further information:<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Accompaniment &#8211; Groups<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/fde-mtl.ca\/en\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Family, Development and Education<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Camps<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/newmancentre.org\/dominusvobiscumca\/wp\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Dominus vobiscum<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Couples in Difficulty<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.helpourmarriage.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Retrouvailles<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Couples Therapy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Contact the <a href=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/sacraments-christian-initiation\/the-sacraments\/marriage\/\">Diocesan Centre for Marriage, Life and the Family<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p><em>May we never lose heart because of our limitations, or ever stop seeking that fullness of love and communion which God holds out before us.<\/em><\/p><cite><em>The Joy of Love,325<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group alignfull is-style-form-container has-beige-light-background-color has-background is-layout-constrained wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading anchor\">Separation and Divorce<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>Let us approach with care and affection those families who are struggling, (\u2026) the ones that are broken (\u2026) or that are suffering for many other reasons, let us approach spouses in crisis and those who are now separated. We want to remain close to all families.<\/p><cite><em>Pope Francis, 2013\/10\/25<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-0f32381a7e0d00398637a2cc67d094b9\">Separated\/divorced persons who are not in a new union<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you are separated or divorced and are not in a new union, you are always a member of the Church by your baptism.&nbsp;Furthermore, your Christian life is still unfolding within the mission of your sacrament of marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you wish to remain faithful to your marriage vows, you will find great support and comfort in the Church: you will find the grace (strength) of God offered in abundance especially in the Eucharist and in the Sacrament of Reconciliation (Familiaris consortio, 20 and 83).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In your lasting and exemplary faithfulness to the one who left you, you are a witness to the magnitude and beauty of Christian marriage and to its indissolubility. What is more, by your faithfulness, you are a witness to the unconditional Love of God for each one of us.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Without knowing it, you are a prophet of God: you are a reminder to those around you that only God can fulfill the deepest desires of the heart; indeed, He can do so in marriage, with the help of a spouse, but He can also do it without an intermediary, by filling your heart with His Love, as He has done for thousands of years for monks and nuns who committed themselves to perpetual prayer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Appearances are often deceiving: in reality, you are not alone.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-margin-small\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-c6e16faec39ec8091280d5c5a3539c04\">Separated and divorced persons in a new union<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you are divorced and in a new union, you are always a member of the Church through your baptism. Contrary to what you may have read or heard, you are not excommunicated, as Pope Francis reminds us here:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-f5b4a064 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Pope Francis: Divorced people who remarry aren&amp;apos;t excommunicated!\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/QSePiBR6jR0?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The Church does not judge you; only God can search hearts and minds. No matter your state in life, by staying and participating in the life of the Church (especially in the Mass and through personal prayer), you will receive the grace (the strength) of God that will support you and illuminate your path toward the abundant life that God wishes to give you. The ways of God are mysterious; only He can make straight the wavy lines of our lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Above all, do not forget that you are not alone: the Church is there for you and with you!<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-margin-small\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-4eb4727cc81546a6af850aca16590139\">Steps to be taken to obtain a declaration of nullity of marriage<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you are separated or divorced, whether you are remarried civilly or not, you may ask the Church to verify if the conditions that would have made your marriage valid <a href=\"#meaning-of-catholic-marriage\">as a sacrament<\/a> were all present at the time you entered into it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If that was not the case, you could receive, after your case has been studied, a declaration of nullity;&nbsp; this declaration of nullity is not a catholic divorce \u2013 a concept that does not exist in the Church, nor is it an annulment of marriage. It is more a declaration that the marriage that was thought valid was not; to be more precise, it never existed, because the necessary preconditions were not met.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To better understand the process for obtaining a declaration of nullity of marriage or for any other question, please&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.org\/en\/archdiocese\/offices-and-services\/ecclesiastical-tribunal\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">contact the Ecclesiastical Tribunal<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading anchor\">Spirituality of Marriage<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\"><blockquote><p>Marital spirituality is a spirituality of the bond, in which divine love dwells (\u2026) Moments of joy, relaxation, celebration, and even sexuality can be experienced as a sharing in the full life of the resurrection.<\/p><cite><em>The Joy of Love, 315 and 317<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"is-style-intro wp-block-paragraph\">In his many speeches, Pope Francis, often addresses the subject of marriage and of the spirituality of the couple. An entire chapter of <a href=\"http:\/\/w2.vatican.va\/content\/francesco\/en\/apost_exhortations\/documents\/papa-francesco_esortazione-ap_20160319_amoris-laetitia.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><em>The Joy of Love<\/em><\/a> is dedicated to it. Written in a way that is clear and accessible, we highly recommend that you read it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading has-primary-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-2002bfbeea10ffa5b88bcfd44fcd2a41\">Here is some advice and thoughts from Pope Francis that will enrich your marriage<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The most important thing is to walk together, (\u2026) mutually helping each other, (\u2026) to recognize our faults and ask for forgiveness, but also to accept the apologies of the other by forgiving. This is so important!<\/p>\n<cite><em>2013\/10\/04<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Contemplate our loved ones with the eyes of God and to see Christ in them (\u2026) We are constantly reminded that each of those who live with us merits complete attention, since he or she possesses infinite dignity as an object of the Father\u2019s immense love. This gives rise to a tenderness which can stir in the other the joy of being loved.<\/p>\n<cite><em>The Joy of Love, 323<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-7387b849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The principle of spiritual realism requires that one spouse not presume that the other can completely satisfy his or her needs. The spiritual journey of each (\u2026) helps to remove the illusions regarding the other, to stop expecting from that person something which is proper to the love of God alone.<\/p>\n<cite><em>The Joy of Love, 320<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>The space which each of the spouses makes exclusively for their personal relationship with God not only helps heal the hurts (\u2026) but also enables the spouses to find in the love of God the deepest source of meaning in their own lives.<\/em><\/p>\n<cite><em>The Joy of Love, 320<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-group is-layout-constrained wp-container-core-group-is-layout-f5b4a064 wp-block-group-is-layout-constrained\">\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"AMORIS LAETITIA - The Spirituality Of Marriage And Family (Chapter Nine)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/BzvzEo8CwXc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:60px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":2297,"template":"","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-2298","mission","type-mission","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/mission\/2298","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/mission"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/mission"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/mission\/2298\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3530,"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/mission\/2298\/revisions\/3530"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2297"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/diocesemontreal.wp.vortexdev.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}